Monday, November 15, 2010
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY "FINE" FRIEND
Her way of looking at the world and all of its difficulties can be summarized by her favorite phrase, "It'll be fine." That phrase has gotten me through some pretty difficult times. We've been stranded in the middle of the ocean and her phrase (along with her arrangements) got my family safely home. "I'm fine" has been used to reassure me that she could make it to her destination without falling asleep, falling over from illness or any other mishaps that she's encountered. "It'll be fine" has given me strength to wait out life's difficulties that have bumped into my secure plans. Sometimes the plans I've made encounter huge snags and yet, "It'll be fine" reminds me that the end will not be as overwhelming as I have anticipated.
When she and I talk, laughter plays a huge part of the conversation. Sometimes what she says or her response to me is downright hilarious. We don't drink, but if one was to eavesdrop, you'd think that we had been nipping the spirits during the verbal exchanges. Who says giggling is only for young girls? Sometimes, we have to repeat what we say, because the laughing muddles the words, which makes it even funnier.
Our husbands do tolerate our conversations, which is good because a lot of our conversations are about our husbands. They both are a minefield of good conversations. We love them dearly, but that doesn't keep us from sharing their quirks, faults and silliness. Heck, if the husbands only knew what we have shared, they would probably would blush. It just makes our friendship even more precious, because not many people would understand how much we love our husbands, warts and all. (No, not literally warts, just character flaws.)
We love the written word and when I've found a book that I think might tickle her fancy, I like to share. Her sensibilities have turned me into a censor. I've given her some books that look weird from the distant, since I've deleted the coarse words from them with markers. Occasionally, I've missed a word but the effort is appreciated and the written work hasn't suffered from the black marks throughout. It's out of respect for her and her beliefs that I do this. If authors only would understand that there is an audience out there that chooses not to read coarse words, maybe they would use other words than common curse words. (After all, I can't use markers on the library books I check out.)
There are many other great qualities that I could write about, but her loyalty, generosity of spirit, and giving nature are what set her apart from many in my world.
She is my sister by heart.
Happy Birthday, to my friend.