Today, I received an unexpected gift. It was a simple, yet complex gift. My daughter finally understood why I used to tell her that I couldn't go to sleep when she was out at night. I worried about her safety and even though she poo-poohed me at the time, I would explain that until she was once again safely home, I couldn't sleep, so the curfew was to be honored.
When she told me that she finally "got it", I asked her why and she explained that a drunk driver was in jail after killing someone. This is not the first time (and I know it won't be the last) that a drunk driver escaped unharmed after killing someone who was in the wrong place at the wrong time. It's just that now my daughter works in the place where that drunk is kept until trial. So after all those years of sticking to my guns and praying for my daughter's safety has led us to this day. The day that my daughter has matured into a place of understanding and appreciation. I am grateful for her clear thinking and hope she remembers my way of parenting when in a few years she is watching over a precious boy who will want to go and explore the world.
Stay strong, be firm and love him with the knowledge that the brain doesn't reach full maturity until the twenties. Good luck, Sweetie. If you thought, colic was tough, wait until he's thirteen and, "You don't know" is thrown at you.
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ReplyDeleteHeck, I don't know, Edith. I am logged on and it doesn't even know me on my own blog. Stranger and stranger.
ReplyDeleteI know your daughter was always listening, but isn't it nice to hear her say it...
ReplyDeleteIsn't it wonderful when they actually admit that they get it?
ReplyDeleteI see my daughter parenting in the same style as me, it's not pretty to watch, but I know it will be for the best. She doesn't get that me as the meezy doesn't have to be mommy, so I can indulge my little one where I didn't indulge her....I am looking forward to the day when she does "get it" cuz it sure makes me feel guilty! Love the picture of the flying pig...very fitting! Glad to see you are back at it....how are the eyes now?